Lately, I have been going through a bit of a mid-life “hair” crisis. By that I mean, I found a few grey hairs and went a little nuts. But what I found over this last year with my hair is that you can cause damage by just washing it.
This is where our story begins. I have always loved my hair. The color and natural highlights were something I never wanted to lose but I knew that was unrealistic. So I told myself that once I started to go grey, I would experiment with my hair color and maybe even the cut. If you look closely at this picture you can see about three greys. While this may seem superficial, I took it as a green light to lose my mind on color choices.
However, that is not the direction I ended up going. As you can see, I got a perm. I have no clue what I was thinking. My mom used to make me perm my hair when I was a kid and I always hated it. Still not sure why I thought this time would be different. My hair became so coarse and was falling out in handfuls with every shower. I was so afraid to have it undone that I dealt with it for about five months.
I did finally work up the nerve to have it straightened again. That is when I realized how thin it had become. I had lost so much hair and soon found out that I was about to lose more. I had to wait awhile before I could do anything else. Which in hindsight, was a good thing. I should have stopped with this but I couldn’t help myself.
The next foolish thing I did was balayage. If you don’t know what this is, they put a dry bleach on your hair and then color over that. The bleach (I believe) takes the place of the developer. I am not an expert here but that is what seemed to be going on.
The end result was amazing. Not only did the colors turn out beautiful but the process had put some volume back in my hair. I am not sure if you can see in the photo but this is red-violet over deep orchid. I would keep it this way forever if only it would last.
The red washed out completely after just 10 days. I have very oily hair and have to wash it daily. This makes coloring with reds more challenging for me. Reds, from what I understand, do not hold well in most cases. The more you wash the faster you lose the color. This picture is the only one I have for my attempt to color myself. I went with all purple so that it would stay longer. It lasted all of four days.
This is me now. The grey is gone and I am back to a more natural look. I did have to cut off about two inches to repair some damage but I am getting there. The mid-life crisis is over (I think). At least for now.
So, why did I just show you all these pictures of me and my hair? Because at the end of it all my hair was still falling out in the shower. In amounts that didn’t feel normal. The first thing I did was look into my shampoo. The second thing I did was look to my garden. If you are having a high amount of hair fall, you can replace your normal shampoo with a mixture of essential oils.
The first thing you need is a bottle of pH balanced shampoo. I use Johnson’s baby shampoo because it is a name that I trust and always used for my children. The second thing is two different essential oils. Rosemary and lemon oil both have properties that strengthen and promote growth.
If you can not make your own oils, they can be easily found on Amazon. I have linked the ones I use. While I make my own rosemary oil, I do not have a lemon tree so I buy mine online. I also recommend a TSA approved bottle for reuse as the size is perfect for the mixture.
- Fill the reusable bottle with about 1oz of the shampoo
- Add 10 drops rosemary oil
- Add 10 drops lemon oil
- Shake well
- Use about half of this each time
- Replace your normal shampoo up to 3 times a week
Now if you are like me and need to use a conditioner, I have some advice here as well. Using a heavy cream once a week to help repair the damage is a good idea. For daily use (or however often you wash your hair) I use Mother’s Milk.
As I said before I wash my hair daily because of the oiliness of it. Dry shampoo can help here too. It can be hard to find one that works well without leaving a dull flat look. Here are a few I have found that work well for me.
And as a bonus, you can use a heat protectant to stop damage and fall out.
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By using this shampoo mixture and these products I have seen a significant change. I am losing little to no hair and I am seeing new growth all the time.
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